Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Not waving, but drowning
Two days a week I do a duty on the Early Years playground. There I see children who are very quick to cry and very quick to get over things. I hear parents who say to their children "Don't cry, be a big boy" as if it is wrong to feel things so strongly. As a teacher to teenagers I've also, at times, been quick to negate someone's feelings. For example I remember a 10th grade girl telling me she didn't want to move back to the USA because she didn't want to leave her boyfriend in Holland and I remember saying "Don't worry, you'll get over him, you'll meet someone else." Looking back now I think that was pretty insensitive of me, especially as some years later when I actually had to leave Holland myself I seemed to spend months saying goodbye and crying about it.
Sometimes, of course, when you are drowning people do throw out a lifeline and haul you in. We should never underestimate the power of kind words. Earlier this week, when I was having a particularly dark moment, I got a lovely note from a colleague that said: "Either you can fight against the waves, or they can carry you to a brighter future.... Surf's Up, Girl!"
OK, time to grab my board .....
Photo Credit: Wave by Kevin N Murphy