People who exhibit the imposter syndrome often overwork to avoid the fear of being "found out"; sometimes they work 2-3 times as hard as others, leading to burn-out and sleep deprivation. Feelings of being phoney can also lead to giving people the answers they believe they want, which then increases the feeling of being a fake. Gifted women often don't react well to praise or recognition - they may attribute this success to charm, not to ability. Because of this someone with the imposter syndrome tries to avoid showing any confidence in his or her abilities, fearing rejection by others.
As I dug a little deeper, I came across an article in Forbes that categorises people with the imposter syndrome into 5 types:
- The perfectionists - who set high goals for themselves, yet when they fail to reach a goal experience self-doubt and worry. These people can be control freaks who believe if they want something done right then they have to do it themselves.
- Superwomen/men - who push themselves harder to measure up to their colleagues and often overwork.
- Natural geniuses - who judge success based on abilities rather than efforts. They believe if they have to work hard at something then they must be bad at it. These people differ from the perfectionists in that they are focused on getting everything right first time.
- The rugged individualists - who believe asking for help is a sign of weakness.
- The experts - who feel they have tricked their employer into hiring them and who fear being exposed as inexperienced and unknowledgeable.
As I read through this I immediately recalled a Women in Leadership session I attended at the NESA Conference in April that was led by Laura Light of International Schools Services. Laura showed a 4 videos presented by Joan C. Williams, Distinguished Professor of Law and Director of the Centre for WorkLife Law at the University of California. She is the co-author, with her daughter Rachel Dempsey, of What Works For Women at Work: Four Patterns Working Women Need to Know. On my return to school after the confererence I was able to lead a session on this at ASB. These four patterns are as follows:
- The prove it again bias (underestimating women’s performance and what women have to do to prove themselves)
- The tightrope bias (being seen as likeable -v– being seen as competent)
- The maternal wall bias (the assumption that women are less competent and committed to their careers)
- The tug of war bias (how women interact with other women)